Why You’re So Addicted To Petty Relationship Drama (And 7 Ways To Move Past It)

Dramatic behavior in relationships is quite common. The problem for drama addicts is that once they meet a worthy partner, they can’t seem to enjoy the relationship fully.

Similarly, for those who find themselves drawn into such a relationship when their self-esteem and self-respect are low, you can naturally attract (and be attracted to) emotionally dramatic types. The opposite is true when you feel good about who you are and truly believe that you’re worthy of a loving, healthy relationship.

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It’s important to understand the psychological reasons behind this subconscious need for drama in relationships in order to move forward and break such patterns:

Basically, all humans require attention. Without this getting and giving of attention, there would be no social species, you could almost look it like getting attention can be the difference between life and death in a crisis.

Therefore, evolutionarily speaking, not getting adequate attention can threaten the quality and sustainability of life. So the need to get functional social attention is understandable. However, extreme attention seekers can go to persistent unhealthy lengths to create drama out of nothing that is driven by emotional desperation.

Drama in the traditional sense is defined as:

  • A situation involving interesting or intense conflict of forces.
  • A series of vividly interesting events.

Excessive attention-seeking in relationships is not a character flaw. It’s often a brain-wired response to early developmental trauma caused by neglect. For example, newborns are extremely dependent on getting their mother’s attention for survival. The more their needs are neglected during early development the more the child equates getting attention with survival and safety.

In turn, the more he or she develops the belief system to go to whatever lengths to get attention and this will roll out into their adult life and manifest in their relationships.

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